I've been slow in posting this. The Ranting Sandmonkey has a very difficult and important decision to make -- one of those "life's turning points" decisions. He's getting a lot of advice -- good advice -- in every direction. I certainly can't tell him what to do, but it's made me think about a lot of stuff, some of which I may write about at some point. Go have a look, and don't miss at least a skim of the comments (there are a lot of them). Good luck to you, SM. You're obviously an exceptional person no matter which choice you make.